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Tuesday, August 17, 2010

Are we there yet?

Desire to Inspire.

Oh dear God, I have reached new depths of human exhaustion. I had no idea the extent of my mother's hoarding. I mean why on earth does one person need 99 pairs of tube socks?

My father and I have filled over one hundred 30-gallon trash bags with all manner of clothing, bed linens, and towels. All given to charity, of course. AmVets has named us to their All-Star Donors wall of fame, and I've decided that the Forrest Gump-ishness of the Goodwill menz who happily unload my vehicle is sexy in its own way.

I must have sounded like death warmed over when my husband called a few hours ago. He offered to catch the next flight out to help. I love my man.

And I miss you, Dumplings! I hope to be back in the bloggin' saddle mid next week.

Fondles,

Raina

P.S. In my mind, I'm lounging on the bed above and being fed grapes by Mark Ruffalo.

31 comments:

sherri said...

I know what else I'd like Mark Ruffalo to feed me. oops did I just type that? can't wait for your return!

sanctuaryhome said...

I was just thinking about you today. Glad to hear your torture is almost over and you will be back to blogging soon!

David said...

Hang in there Raina! You're making the move easier on your folks, and more importantly, ensuring your mom doesn't end up on an episode of Hoarders: Buried Alive.

Robin said...

Hang in there chica. At least you didn't find any petrified cats or used dentures (examples from the one and only episode of "Hoarders" I could stomach). Oh, and Mark Ruffalo is here feeding me bon bons and he said he'd be right over.

A Perfect Gray said...

lordy. I didn't realize how much I'd missed you 'til I just read your words.

we'll be glad to have you back.

Kate said...

miss you so much and what a good daughter you are! My folks are heading the way of this same situation and oyvey, what I'm in for!
can't wait to see you back- blogging never looked so good, eh?
Kate
www.painteveryday.blogspot.com

my favorite and my best said...

here: http://www.imnotobsessed.com/image/hgordmarkruff12.jpg

here: http://celebrity-pics.movieeye.com/celebrity_pictures/Mark_Ruffalo_450711.jpg

and if you have never seen this: http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0199626/

you need to.
you're welcome...

Coté Provence said...

Raina,

So glad to hear things are going well... You are an amazing woman to help your parents. That's what we do as adults... Parents took care of us when we were young, now it's our turn to help. I know exactly what you are going through.

and oh... Mark Ruffalo... amazing looking man!

xo

Camilla @ Designalogue said...

My RSS feed is quite boring without you. I miss you....

Alexis L., The Studioist said...

Oh Raina,
When you mentioned your mother's "hoarding" I was hoping you were using the term for effect but it seems not. So sorry that you both are going through this. I've had occasion to dig relatives out of situations and it is indeed an unwelcome test. Hang in there and I look forward to seeing you back on the blog.

The Down East Dilettante said...

I feel your pain. Truly I do. My mother was a poor child during the
Depression, and it's never left her. Nothing is too small, too redundant, or too trivial to save. She's never noticed that she's actually quite well off as an adult...

My father and I have been trying to get the hoarding down to reasonable levels. We're losing that war. Good luck with yours.

Sharon @ Real Estate Resuscitation said...

100 bags?!?! Wow. Yeah, that drive thru Goodwill is pretty nice.

melissa said...

Hi Raina, we are living slightly parallel lives at the moment and you have my sympathies! My mother is moving out of the apartment she has been living in since 1987. My sister and I spent the whole day there yesterday filling garbage bags, recycling bags, freecycle boxes, thrift shop boxes, etc. And having conversations like "mmm, yes, it is a lovely jug mum, but there are already 6 jugs in the cupboard of stuff you are keeping and I'm just wondering if at this point in your life you really need seven".

I have returned with boxes of stuff that I Don't Want (but agreed to take just because it was too difficult not to). But at least all my old school reports surfaced which allowed us to have a comic interlude...

Anyway you are a GOOD daughter, as am I. And I'm sure your mum was as amazingly relieved to get so much done, and grateful for the help, as mine was!

ginger said...

I love the Hoarders show, I find that all really fascinating! On a totally unrelated note, I ran my hubs photo through the celebrity face recognition tool at myheritage and the person he looked most alike was Mark Ruffalo.

Ohh yeah, that made my christmas (sadly, the site told me that I looked like a member of the Bush family. So Not Cool)

Acanthus and Acorn said...

You are a SAINT! Just loaded up 2 bags from my son's room and that was theraputic...love purging stuff!

Hope you treat yourself to a mani/pedi when you return home...and a good back rub!!!

hush said...

"The Forrest-Gumpishness of Goodwill menz" - spot on & so true about the ones where I live, too. Good on you for helping out your folks. I heard recently that people with the tendency to hoard get mentally overwhelmed by their odd ability to see so many possibilities for any given object. (That shoe may or may not fit your moms, BTW. Big difference between 'I'm older and just have a ton of shizz & memories' vs. 'I wasn't aware I collected dead mice & mold on top of my children's cherished baby pics and late father's war memorabilia.' Know what I mean?) Anyway, it is supposedly like getting trapped into a bad pattern of literally thinking outside the box too much. The show makes me too sad to watch though.

p.s. Thanks for adding my blog to your roll!

Jessica said...

wow and wow - you are a good woman! hang in there and just keep thinking about Mark Ruffalo

nkp said...

May all your Ruffalo dreams come true. Hang in there.

xoxo-n.

Appletree said...

Mark is mine, hands off.

etak said...

MARK? He's MY man!

Naz said...

It's never easy to get rid of stuff but even moreso when it's your mother's.

susieq said...

Oh Raina, you are such a good good daughter. Wish I could be there to help you pack and clean. Miss you!

Kathysue said...

Hi Raina, I feel your pain, I did this for my Mom so I know what you are dealing with, It is an amazing process. I doubt that you will have the time but I wanted to give you a heads up that I am doing a post Sat 21st on What's in a Name. It is a list of blogs with intriguing names and your blog is on it. If you do have time and could stop by and leave a comment on why you named you blog the name it has that would be great, you can also email me at Goodlifeofdesign@blogspot.com. If you can't do it, I totally understand it sounds like you hands are quite full at the moment. Hang in there, Kathysue

AB HOME Interiors said...

Ok so are you saying it's bad to have 100 pairs of tube socks? hahah And 100 bags of clothes, linens, and various other things is the epitome of warm over death? Got it. Note to self...throw away my beloved tube socks, so people stop talking about me!

I will be over here in the corner thinking of Mark Ruffalo, D-lish!
xo
amanda

Karena said...

Raina you are a gift to your parents, it is hard as our parents age and need us more and more!

Karena
Art by Karena

Bromeliad said...

So been there.
200 plus light bulbs
50 rolls of various wallpaper
15 boxes of sheets, pillows
50 plus lamps
20 boxes of glassware, some packed away since Carter was president.
clothes, clothes, clothes, clothes, clothes, clothes, clothes, clothes, clothes

Sketch42 said...

Good Luck... Sounds like hell. We miss you!

Keri Batchelder Hoffman said...

Thanks for adding MYSTN to the People Who Get It list - I'm honored!!! Can't wait to see all the awesome posts you'll have after your hiatus.

jules @ The Diversion Project said...

oooh man, packing up my mothers house is my greatest fear. you'll be needing more than just grapes i'm sure! hope it goes by in a flash. jx

only a movie said...

Sherri's comment almost made me lose my coffee.

Hang in there. You are a Good Daughter for getting through this.

xo

Tonia @Chic Modern Vintage said...

We miss you too. Your a fabulous daughter, to take on a task such as this. I know exactly how you feel. I had to assist 2 of my Great Aunts that didn't have children.